Are you guilty of any of these? Goal Setting: 5 Reasons You Might Be Failing At Your Goals. It's a New Year and we've all set some pretty incredible goals!! Check out these reasons why most women will fail at their goals and what you can do to make sure you don't fall into these traps!

Woo hoo!!! It's 2016, the ball has dropped, the year has begun, and we are seven days in to achieving some major goals! We've gone through our goal planning, and we're off and running. But statistics tell us that the majority of us won't actually accomplish our goals this year. Let's prove them wrong!! Let's talk about five reasons you might be failing at your goals, and more importantly, how to correct your course so that 2016 really is your best year ever!

Goals Without Action

The #1 reason that I believe that women fail their goals is because they bite off more than they can chew. When I look back to prior years and review goals that I didn't fulfill, I see one common theme: they were goals without action. You see, I set these really exciting, lofty, ambitious goals, but I didn’t put any steps in the place to actually accomplish my goals. Gigantic, seemingly impossible goals aren't bad, but goals that we can make headway towards, with specific action items, are better.

Michael Hyatt used this example once in one of his podcasts, and it really resonated with me. He said that if you've never golfed before, then setting a goal to be a scratch golfer in 3 months is just unrealistic. I mean, could you accomplish that goal if you golfed every single day for the next 3 months? Potentially, depending on your current talent and resources. But realistically, a better goal might be: I want to lower my handicap 1 point over the next 3 months or lower my handicap 1 or 2 points over the next 3 months, and I'm gonna accomplish that by going to the golf course, hiring a golf pro to help me, etc.

As we become more experienced in goal-setting, and as we see success in our goal-setting, then I think it makes a lot more sense to set bigger, harder, more scary goals. But if you've just come off of a frustrating year, or if you've failed at goal-setting in the past, then let's start out with some more attainable, more realistic goals with tangible action items that will move us in the right direction.

Fear of Failure

The second thing that I believe holds us back in achieving our goals is fear of failure. And so this kind of piggybacks right along with the first reason. Let's say that last year you said "I'm gonna eat 5 vegetables a day every single day, and I'm gonna work out 5x a week, I'm gonna do XYZ", and you set some really lofty goals. And you're sitting here today thinking, "I didn't accomplish any of those. In fact, I weigh more now than I did then", or "I'm less happy than I was", or "my business is not as thriving as I thought it would be." Listen, don't let that hold you back from setting some great goals this year!

@@The past is the past. It’s already happened. But your future is still in front of you. #goalsetting #sweatpink@@

The past is the past. It’s already happened. But your future is still in front of you. And if you let the past hold you back, you're setting your future up for failure. Let's not do that, ladies! Even if we end up stumbling and falling, let's move in the right direction because we are going to be so much farther along this time next year than if we never started at all. So let's be confident. Let’s stop saying "I can't." Let's stop saying "I'm not good enough", and let's start saying "I can do this", "I'm moving forward", and "Maybe I didn't do it before but I'm going to do it now."

Lack of Discipline

Discipline is a critical ingredient to staying committed, focused, and following through with our goals. So how do we find more discipline? One area {and this goes into my next point} is accountability. I truly, truly 100% believe that you have to have accountability in order to be disciplined, with rare exception. Yes, there are individuals who are super super disciplined, and who never ever need to be held accountable to anybody else. But they are the exception, not the rule. And I am not one of them.

Lack of Accountability

I thrive on accountability. I need accountability. So who holds me accountable? I have a large network of accountability:

  • My business mentor. I share my goals with her because she needs to know where I'm trying to go so that we can push together in the same direction.
  • My business accountability partner. We talk every week. It can really be easy to get derailed as an entrepreneur, and as a stay at home mom. And so when I'm talking to my accountability partner every single week, and we're sharing our struggles and we’re sharing our successes - and that's setting us both up for future success.
  • My Bible study group. I also have a Bible study group that I'm accountable to at church. And these ladies will call me out when I'm not keeping the right things the priority.
  • As a business coach, I have my own clients who I'm holding to a really high standard of success. I'm making sure that if I’m telling them they need to do certain critical core activities to move their businesses forward, that I'm practicing what I preach.
  • As a personal trainer, I’m running online boot camps with clients who I'm holding accountable. And truly, my online boot camp clients hold me just as accountable as I hold them. Because I have to be committed every single day to show up and to work out and to eat healthy.

@@Accountability and discipline are two critical elements to achieving your goals this year!@@

Sharing Your Goals with a Broad Audience

Did you know that sharing your goals can actually hinder your ability to achieve your goals? Michael Hyatt actually shared this in a really old blog post. He said "sharing your goals with the world is actually a recipe for failure in your goals." At first, I was really surprised to hear this, but it actually makes sense. Michael backed up his argument by pointing to a 2010 ted talk by Derek Sivers. Basically here's what he said: When you share your goals with the public {e.g. broadcasting them on a periscope or anywhere else}, when you share your goals that broadly, you get the same euphoria that you get if you actually accomplished the goals. Because it's terrifying to share them in that kind of a broad spotlight. And so something in your brain triggers an accomplishment response. What Michael Hyatt counsels his following to do, and what I counsel my clients to do is to not share the details of their goals in a broad post or broad group of people. But instead to share goals only with people who are committed to helping them achieve their goals {i.e. me, their mentors, their mastermind groups, their business partners, their spouse, their closest friends}.

Have you set some big goals for 2016? What are some action steps that you'll be taking this year to accomplish your goals?

Pssst.... Don't forget, you can download my free goal-setting printable here!

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