Have you ever had one of those days where you give a friend some great advice, and then another friend repeats the exact same words to you when you're asking her for advice? When that happens to me – when I hear something twice in one day {and especially when it's my own advice repeated right back at me} – I know to listen.


Let me say it again {in case you're like me and never read the subheadings}… Discipline breeds passion!

Yep… That's the “aha” advice… The advice I gave and received… and it's truly some of the best advice for getting unstuck.

Now here's the context…

It’s 7:00 in the morning and I'm meeting my girlfriend for coffee. She's explaining to me how she has totally lost her passion for something that she believes is super-important, and I start to hear her make excuses for certain things she has and hasn't been doing.

{Ok, I know I'm being a little cryptic here, but if we met for coffee, I know you wouldn't want me to share the details of your life story across social media, either!}.

When she asked me for my opinion, I responded: “Well, do you want like Tough Love Rachel or do you want Nice Rachel?”

She hesitated… “I kind of want both.” {Let's just be clear, I'm pretty sure she didn't actually want both, but since she gave me permission…}


Tough Love Rachel explained to her that the reality of her situation is this: discipline will breed the passion she is missing. So if she wants to get unstuck she needs to just get over it and do the thing she doesn't want to do.

Here’s an example: working out. {It's ok if you inwardly groaned, but truly, working out is such a great metaphor for life and for business!}

Let’s say I hate working out {because if you know my back story, you know I did}.

So this was my story… I was tired of the way I looked and felt, but I didn't want to work out. I wasn't passionate about carrot sticks and treadmills. {Who is?!} The thought of working out didn't excite me. So I didn't do it.

Discipline breeds passion… and passion breeds discipline. Take action today!


When I changed my story and decided to be disciplined and just do it, everything changed. I continued to work out {over and over and over again}, and I started to see results.

Amazing results.

45 lb weight loss results.

And when I saw the results I was getting, I liked them. I enjoyed the way I felt and the way I looked. And so I become more passionate about working out.

Because I was disciplined, and I continued to keep going even when I didn't “feel” like it, a newfound passion emerged!

My excuse had been: “I’m too tired to get up and work out.” The reality was: I was too tired to not get up and work out. Because working out actually gave me that boost I needed to persist throughout the day.


Not thirty minutes after these words were out of my mouth, and my friend and I had come up with an action plan to solve her passion/discipline problem, my mentor and I were talking about an issue I'd been having.

Only this time, I was the one who needed the tough love.

“Rachel, just do it. When you do it, and you do it consistently, you'll start to become excited about it.”

{Hadn't I just said the same thing to my friend? So why couldn't I see the exact same issue in my own life? Funny how that works, isn't it?}


Trust me, I get it! {Clearly, I've been there!}

But rather than make excuses for the “it” that we’re not doing, let’s just be honest with ourselves and admit the heart of the issue. The excuse is: “I'm too tired” or “I don't have enough time”. But often, the reality is: “It's no longer important to me… I’ve lost my passion for it.”

When we dig deep and start to understand and focus on the real problem {rather than the excuse}, we can begin to actively work toward a solution.

And the solution to a lack of passion is discipline.

So pick one thing today… you know what “it” is… you've been thinking about “it” the entire time you read this. Pick one action item you can take to move you closer to “it” today, and stay disciplined.

What do you do when you're struggling to stay disciplined/passionate?